The family we are born into may or may not be part of our tribe. It is over the course of time that we have the opportunity to connect with those people who feel like family: kinsmen and kinswomen with whom we effortlessly connect. Sometimes we can walk into a room and know instantly that we are with our tribe, or we might meet someone who feels so familiar and comfortable that there must be a deep-rooted connection.
I have often felt alone though thankfully it has been many years that I have truly felt lonely. It can scary to get vulnerable, but I am learning that the reward is so great and well worth the risk. The key is finding your tribesmen and women – those people who will love you unconditionally and who you feel a great loyalty toward. I believe that our souls protect us and it is for each one of us to determine with whom we are meant to walk this path. For me it has been a seemingly long journey although the healthier I become, the younger I feel. In the process of experiencing trauma I unconsciously adopted coping skills to cover up the pain. I am still recovering my senses and it is only through safe relationships with others that I am able to experience the full spectrum of emotions.
As you seek out your people, you might consider what identity have you taken on and how do you wish to change it? Are you the lone warrior (I was and still can be!) or are you the eternal team player? Do you shape the path or take the route that is so rutted out it seems like the only option? Who do you surround yourself with and how do they inspire you and encourage you to experience life at its fullest?
I have come to know myself in a new way in the past ten years, since entering into a new way of life without drugs or alcohol. The path of self-discovery and love has magnified since becoming a mother five years ago. I am learning that it is okay to be sensitive and that I do not have to apologize for how I live my life or to whom I choose to give my time. I do not live from a place of should and I no longer settle for what seems to be enough or okay. I could not have done this without my tribe and I am so grateful that we are finding eachother (again) in this lifetime.